Hello!
Life is CRAAAAAAZY! Between the holidays, Mikes birthday, my birthday, the kids, I haven't had any time! I wanted to take the time out to give a shout out to a woman who's kind of awesome. Briannas mom Becky and me have formed such an awesome relationship I really just had to blog about it. And I'm totally calling her out (sorry boo!). Mike was married to Becky for a few years and together they had our wonderful Brianna ;) I met Becky a few years ago when I started dating Michael and obviously was around Brianna more often. Can I just tell you I have to give Becky some props here because there were some questionable times in mikes life and becky really stood up and had to be a parent at some point. Not to put my husband down at all but in reality there were some difficult choices that had to be made. All I can say is when I stepped into the picture Becky had dealt with at least two previous women in Briannas life so for someone else to come into the picture again it had to have been hard. i can't imagine what went through her mind when she found out mike had moved on ... again. Regardless I met becky and her husband corey on the front porch of the house mike was living in which happened to be relatives of becky. Her and corey were extremely welcoming and nice. It's like they gave me the chance to show them I'm not like the others, i'm a good person. They gave me the opportunity to not have to defend myself because of past choices someone else made. I'm not saying we NEVER have differences because as humans obviously we'll have differences BUT the differences with that is we were never immature about anything. I can tell you me and becky talk at LEAST twice a week whether it's facetime or texting or just phone calls. Brianna is our bright star who's currently in public school and becky keeps us updated on EVERYTHING. We never have to fight for information regarding her grades, parent teacher conferences, medical information. NOTHING. literally. it's so REFRESHING. Becky text me the other day with a screen shot of briannas grades without me even asking! It was so awesome (by the way our child is a genius getting all A's :).) Whenever there's a conversation to be had brianna is always referred to as "our child" meaning mike,becky me and corey. Because at the end of the day all four of us completely care about this child and what becomes of her. Whether she goes to clown school, goes to an ivy league college, or becomes a wife and mother. Were all here to support her. This whole crazy Bio mom hates step mom thing is so unbelievably over rated and kind of makes me want to throw up in my mouth. Who WANTS that DRAMA?! We hate having to fight for information that's being covered up regarding Leigha. that's insane. If you're not doing anything wrong, why are you hiding it? Becky and corey are completely and utterly amazing people. Regardless of the past, Christ has taught us to forgive as he has forgiven us. We move forward, we don't fight, we don't argue, we don't get ridiculous. If there's a problem, we talk it out. Because that's whats best for brianna. Ultimately that's what's best for all of our children. I'm sure Becky and Corey will visit whenever me and Mike have a child because were all a family. There's no need for immaturity, hiding, secrets, nonsense. That's stress and we all know I don't need anymore of that. I just wanted this to be a post about moms coming together, because Becky has already voiced to me that she appreciates me being the mom in my household and taking care of brianna like she's my own. that's how it should be. Cut out the drama ladies and gents. Get along with the parents and step parents. If you want this child to have a shot at life, get along. Even if it means sitting down as a group in a room and hashing out any issues you have. It may be uncomfortable at first but if things need to be said, then say them! There's a child involved that didn't ask for any of this. The least you could do is get along for the kids and want what's best for them. Out of court, without the hostile screaming and cussing at exchanges, JUST BE NICE. So now that I've gone on long enough about my husbands ex wife and the relationship we have, go out there and get along with these women and men! Those kids love you, so love eachother :)
Kristen
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