Raise your hands if you've ever thought about your children being kidnapped and there's nothing you can do about it. *hand raised*. it goes through every parents mind, you watch the lifetime movies, and the news stories and people have kids kidnapped and it's horrible. it's heartbreaking, it's terrible. You always try to do everything possible to keep your kids safe, put trackers on their phones, lock the doors and windows, set the alarm. What if i told you that you are more likely to open the door for the kidnapper and before you know it you're watching them take your kid? Unfortunately that's the reality of the world that Hillary Clinton has built for us. Hillary has made some really dumb decisions like Bill, probably not the cream of the crop choice for a husband. Also the Adoption and Safe families act of 1997. Has anyone actually read that act? Have you actually realized that there are now incentives to place children in foster homes? The lipstick on the pig tells you that it was designed to help children with special needs be adopted out of foster care, but has anyone asked how they got there in the first place? Previously in life when CPS took your child they gave you services and did everything to preserve the family and keep it together. Rehab if you must. This was Hillarys baby, this was such a great thing to partake in to just pave her road for her run for President. WRONG. it's a terrible act, they make the public believe that this was to show that they cared about the children and wanted the children to be happy. Example of this act in progress? My step daughter Leigha lived in our home for her entire life, when she was kidnapped by DYFS she went through multiple foster homes where her clothes were stolen and she was given rags. Then she was placed with her mother who's currently abusing heroin and refuses to take care of her. GREAT JOB HILL. This act has made it so CPS is moving quicker to terminate parental rights therefore dragging out the process *Que all the due process lawsuits* and not giving the parents the services required to reunite the children. Did you know that fifty to eighty percent of the child trafficking issues were foster children? That means they snatched these kids from their homes for asinine reasons and placed them in foster homes that were trafficking these children for money. *vomit in my mouth*. You know what else makes me want to projectile vomit? For every child CPS kidnaps from their homes that office gets a $4,000 bonus which trickles down to the specific worker that took them. Don't believe me? Email me and i'll show you the paychecks of the state worker that took Leigha and you'll see the $14,000 she got in bonuses for kidnapping kids. FOURTEEN THOUSAND DOLLARS for stealing kids, which is why she gave no regard or emotion to stealing Leigha and putting her in foster care. Don't worry, they're state workers so their information is public record. Thank you OPRA. Moving onto something even more horrifying is the fact that when your child is involuntarily taken from you these foster care parents get stipends from the state obviously to take care of your child while in their care. You can determine if that actually happens, anyway, while getting these nice stipends from the state they can also take your now emotional, mourning, distraught, hard working self to court for child support! ARE YOU F***** KIDDING ME?! yup whats up with that state of NJ? Christie? Anyone out there? yup, they can serve you with a court order to pay for the childs healthcare and pay them money every week on top of getting their state stipend. So they're rolling in the dough for your child that you didn't even want to give up! On top of all of that if your child has mental issues or behavioral issues such as ADHD or ODD and require medication the state pays that family MORE money to take care of that child. And to think you don't have a damn choice in any of this, you raised this child. You bathed them, fed them, woke up in the middle of the night with them, they're YOUR child and you have no say in what happens. To end this horrifying series of events and back to my original statement of letting the kidnappers in your house and watching them take your kid. I've posted about this previously but they have this pretty piece of paper called the DODD order named after some idiot who played politician for Halloween one year. This piece of paper allows them to take your child because they think they're being harmed and give you a court date two days later where the court decides to uphold the removal or not. If they don't uphold it then it's all "my bad bro, here's your kid back". What? What part of that doesn't scream "thanks for violating my constitutional rights"? Que Alexander Hamilton rolling over in his grave. Last time I checked the constitution was the supreme law. Now it's just an old piece of paper that people laugh about because schools teach the absolute worst history on the document. They also don't prepare you for having your rights violated and nobody actually giving a shit about it. Sorry guys and girls, America has died. Read this blog entry and then read it again, then email it to your friends, family, nana, dog whoever. Because at the end of the day nobody thinks your child is going to be kidnapped by someone in a cheap suit and flats accusing you of smoking marijuana when you were twelve. It happens folks, prepare yourself because it happens everyday. My email is at the end of this blog for any questions or concerns regarding any of the material in this blog today. you have a question? I'll betcha i can answer it, you might even get a witty comeback!
Have a great night ya'll and protect yo children!
Kristen
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Good morning fellow step parents!
I had such an awesome weekend with my youngest step daughter Ashley i'm still happy about it! We went to Johnson's Farm for some pumpkin picking and lunch which was awesome. Every year she gets older the more awesome and exciting it gets! She loved the hay ride and walking around the field, she ended up piling all the pumpkins into a pile! haha it was really an awesome day. It's fantastic watching these little humans learn and grow and experience new things. Unfortunately the beginning of our day was not as happy, we pick Ashley up on Saturday mornings at 8:30 halfway between our house and her mothers house. I say her mothers house because she refuses to give us the address of where she's actually living with her boyfriend. That home consists of Ashley have no bed of her own, she has to sleep with them. She also has no room for herself, they live in an attic with some caged animal and all of his tattoo supplies. This has resulted in Ashley receiving two black eyes in the past year which is still a little shady on how she got both of them. So we've been trying to actively potty train for months now, we got the potty seat, the underwear, the rewards, the whole shabang. We put in her underwear, we deal with the accidents and we try to keep her going forward. Then she goes home to her mom for five days and sits in a diaper. And when I say she sits in a diaper i mean they put a diaper on her and she contracts yeast infections every week because they refuse to wipe her between changes. Gross, I know. Anyway so she shows up in her pajamas and no shoes because for some reason putting shoes on your toddler when leaving the house doesn't happen with them, were honestly lucky she had a jacket on. Anyway so she stinks like cigarettes, she's hysterically crying because her mother always says something to get her going like "i know but you have to go to your dads house" or "we can't go to the lake today because you have to go to your dads house" ultimately making mike the bad guy for wanting to spend time with his kid. SO not only does she stink but she has FOOD stuck to the side of her FACE from the previous night. W T F. So we go to my moms house and i get her cleaned up and get her into fresh clothes. As soon as I offered her yogurt and water in the car she was totally fine, she's not a brat, her mom is. we get all set and get some breakfast in us and off we went to pick pumpkins! She's obviously the sweetest little girl that we could have taken with us at that age. She was fine the whole time, even ate an entire hot dog! The rest of the weekend was fun, we went to church, hung out, did whatever, potty trained which she took to pretty well like normal. A few accidents but nothing horrible. We have hit this huge brick wall of Ashley continuously calling her moms boyfriend "daddy H***" (I'm not revealing his name) and actually calls mike that pretty consistently now. The kid is pretty obviously confused about who is who in her life. We've confronted her about this previously (as i'm sure you're all aware from previous posts) and she still just seems to not understand. The weirdest part about this weekend was sitting at the table and Ashley starts to tell us about a story where moms boyfriend hit mom. W T F. I won't get into details but if an almost three year old can tell me the things she told me I would believe it. On top of already knowing about the physical violence that has happened between them. Needless to say she's showing up with black eyes, yeast infections, crazy stories and not potty trained. For some reason her mom seems to not care. I've been pretty neutral in this entire thing for a long time just playing my step mom role but when does enough become enough? Not to mention as soon as Ashley saw her mom she immediately asked for her "passy". Now my sister in law took her daughters pacifier away a while back and my niece never asks for it, ever. As a matter of fact my new nephew has one and she still doesn't ask for hers. Because she knows she doesn't get one, how about that! Three years old and Ashley is still being given a pacifier, that's disgusting. Stop it, stop with the pacifier at three years old. We stopped giving it to her two years ago and she never asks us for one. So all in all, as well as WE'VE raised this child she still goes to a home full of violence and poor parenting. Who do you call for help? Because last time we called for help they tried to arrest me for child abuse. So you can't call the authorities what do you do? We could go back to court but that's a fifty fifty chance, who knows how the judge is that day. I'm just so frustrated this little girl is living in filth all day, with no baths, they don't even take the previous coat of nail polish off before they slap another coat on. Her ears are dirty and full of wax, her socks were destroyed and tore up (so we bought her another pack of socks). Her clothes are never the right size, the coat was a 4T! I just can't comprehend, why have children if you're not willing to take care of them? This is the end of my rant for this week, it was just so frustrating watching a mother who is not on drugs, make poor choices. A mother who is more concerned with her boyfriend and their relationship than the son she gave up and the daughter she refuses to take care of. Anyway, moving forward. Any comments, suggestions or just advice from any step parents is of course always welcome! Remember to stick together, step parents have a tough job! Keep it up and keep lovin' those babies :)
Have a blessed week guys
Kristen
Long time no blog!
life has been INSANE. This step mama is EXHAUSTED! so the past few months have just been a complete whirlwind of emotions and things happening that I never thought were actually legal to be honest. In June I went to court for custody of my step daughter leigha on behalf of my husband. This court date consisted of the Judge being so incredibly understanding and nice, and Leighas mom cussing on the record ... numerous times. Classy. Regardless custody wasn't changed because it wasn't filed correctly blah blah. We were due back in court with DCPP (formerly known as DYFS) on July 25th, which *dun dun dun* was cancelled *shocked face*. So we wait, and wait and wait and grow some gray hairs, celebrate whatever holidays happen in there, we moved you know the norm. We actually moved because leighas mom has a nasty habit of being mentally unstable and we no longer felt safe in our apartment so we moved to a gated community in another town. Needless to say I don't think she's getting past the gate guard, the cameras and the alarm system *phew*. Moving on, so were coming up on three months and guess what? NO court date! We did however get child support papers from leighas mom. Leighas mom paid ZERO money towards child support for FOUR YEARS of leighas life, nothing, nada. No medical benefits, no daycare money while my husband worked full time, no money towards the roof over her head, clothes on her back. Do you know who did pay for that? her Step mother! the evil step mother. I put my hard earned money to buying her things for her room, and christmas presents, and doctors appointments and field trips and plays at school. I did that. Anyway, so we have court on October 19th for child support while our other court date is still pending. SO I called today to find out yet again what the issue could be, I was told by the court clerk that the DAG (the attorney for DYFS) and DYFS could not agree on a court date. So were getting pushed back because the children can't agree on a day? Or don't want to agree on a day? So regardless the date is still not reset, we have child support court were hoping to get postponed. As far as Leigha herself is concerned, she's a hot mess. She's been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD and I'm personally throwing in Bipolar. Her emotions are everywhere, she's up and down emotionally, she's distraught all the time. She talks about me to Michael during a visit then immediately asks him in a terrified manner not to tell her mom that she talked about her. What's that about? Her mom also tried to make it so the school couldn't give out any information about Leigha to michael. Isn't that crazy? probably because leigha is a hot mess and the school documents it and has to tell Michael about it. We weren't aware of the first day of school or back to school night. Now that we have the online access we can track everything about Leigha. We know when she misses school, we know there was a child study team involved with her, we know when her doctors appointments are. She also left out that school pictures were Thursday so we got that information as well so we could purchase our own. It really just baffles me how out of control this situation is. Almost a year ago leigha was placed in a house that's infested with bed bugs, she currently lives with two felons and someone else with a criminal history, the house has no heat, she eats cinnamon toast crunch and has five cavities. She tells michael she didn't brush her teeth last night because she didn't eat dinner, she didn't eat dinner because she ate too many gummy worms. WHAT?! In what world does any of that make sense? So this is a little dip into my world the past few months, it's been surgeries, nonsense, christmas shopping, holidays, prepping for the upcoming holidays, working, and trying to keep my sanity in it's container. But I'm back and ready for my future blogs! So keep in touch and keep listening and reading for my future shenanigans!
